Originally broadcast today, in Laura’s newsletter: “Living Wisely”

A BRAND NEW Teleclass with Laura
Doing Business Buddha’s Way or Aligning Mind, Body and Spirit to Boost Your Income Right Now
Join Laura for a five-week teleclass to boost your income right away. Ideal for self-employed folks or anyone ready to grow in the financial realm of their life. Using Buddhist principles as focusing tools, Laura will show you how to collapse time and get big results, FAST.

PURE POSSIBILITY

Masterful coaches live ‘in the land of possibility’. What that means is to coach you successfully, I cannot live in your fear, doubts, worry or story about how you perceive your circumstances. I have to stand outside of that miasma in the land of possibility and put a stake in the ground that symbolizes your ability to move towards what will make you happy. Does that mean I’m an idealist? Yes. But I am also a realist which is why I can build trust. I know that standing in possibility can sound like a pie-in-the-sky fantasy so I temper it with reality. However, what is ‘real’ is brought into question at every turn.

As a recovering worrier myself, I have learned to question what feels real and pick it apart until I am released from the grip of fear. It’s been a life-long journey and each plateau is followed by new understanding. Recently, I was in quiet reflection considering what it would be like to live in PURE POSSIBILITY. Without tempering it with reality, without visiting the worse case scenario, what would that be like? Could I live in the land of possibility for myself more often? Could you?

Allowing yourself to really believe—at the cost of getting hurt, failing, being wrong, looking like a fool—-that would be the state of pure possibility. Understanding that failure is just as much a part of success as anything else also accounts for pure possibility. When I see a tree fallen over in the woods, I don’t think the tree failed, I just perceive its life years to now be replaced by a new function as trail marker or resting stop or obstacle. It is part of the natural order as are our missteps. In the space of pure possibility, that misstep may be exactly what leads us to our greatest joy or accomplishment. Haven’t you heard people say: “If I had not been fired from that job, I would have never met my wife and had these great kids” or whatever x led to your y or z.

This is less about positive thinking and more about non-judgment. Pure possibility is avoiding getting hung up on what happens being good or bad because ultimately, we don’t really know. What seemed good could turn bad and visa versa. I suppose that leads to the question then of ‘Why bother?’. If things are neither good nor bad, then why bother trying to put yourself in a mindset of pure possibility? If it’s not going to guarantee the result we desire, then why try being in that state?

I can confidently say for myself and hundreds of clients over the years, that it feels so much better than the alternative. Often that feeling alone can determine outcome. Are you more likely to do the things you have to do to improve your life, your health, your relationships, or your work prospects when you are worried or when you are inspired? Better fuel equals an easier ride and most likely, better results.

Let’s explore some human scenarios that rely on pure possibility. Let’s take marriage for example. Long-lasting marriages rely on pure possibility  Both partners truly believe that no matter what it is possible to be married for a lifetime. That’s the ‘ruling idea’ of their relationship.

Think of beginner’s luck. When you don’t know any better, you live in the possibility of things going your way and often, they do. I can attest to that one with my first book. I was discovered and asked to write a book. I missed the whole self-education part about what it takes to publish a book. Thank goodness! My naivite put me in ‘possibility’ and I am so grateful because doing it the second, third and fourth time were so much harder and I may not have ever done the first one if I’d known so.

Even today’s job market requires pure possibility. This one is a challenge, I know. If you listen to the media, you do not have a shot at becoming employed. In the ‘land of possibility’ you do but it may not come in the form you thought it would. Pure possibility also means being open to new options. Remember, no judgment.

People who really believe achieve incredible things. What do you need to do to shift into pure possibility? Can it be an overall way of being for you? OR can you choose one area of your life to try it with?

There is still plenty of real estate in the ‘land of possibility’. And no swamps, I promise.